Imagine. You just got back from the office. It was a very long and hard day. You reached late for a meeting, the presentation didn’t go as planned, you couldn’t get a coffee to get that much needed energy because you only had four hours sleep last night and to make it all worse, your favorite tacos were sold out too! Now you’re sitting on your couch, waiting for the day to be over and the only optimistic thought you have right now is that maybe tomorrow will be better. A bit happier. What if we tell you that you can choose to be happy everyday? But before that, we ask you, what is happiness?
What is Happiness?
Do we define happiness in terms of materialistic possessions? Or having more money than we have right now? Or getting our dream job? But the list of cravings is never ending. We’ll always find ourselves wanting more and more, chasing these worldly desires. Achieve those goals and you are supposed to be happy, at least that’s the picture the society paints in our heads. If not, we end up overthinking and affecting our mental health.
If you’re thinking that you will only be happy when everything goes your way, you’re probably moving in the wrong direction. Even when you are at the peak position in all your desired endeavors, you can still be devoid of happiness. Jim Carrey said, “I think everyone should get rich and famous and do everything that they ever dreamed of so they can see that it is not the answer.”
What do we need to change?
First of all, we need to accept that highs and lows are a part of life. You can never know the true value of success if you have never experienced failure. Life is just like an Electrocardiogram in a hospital. As long as you’re alive, ups and downs will keep on coming.
What we need to do instead is to accept that we can’t control the lows and highs in our lives. What we can do is, not relating our entire notion happiness and sadness with these highs and lows alone. Going back to the earlier example, having a bad day at work definitely is a low but what we can do is take control of what’s ahead of us. Having a bad day? Acknowledge the lows and still smile. Move on. Don’t let the negativity persist. Find a silver lining and if that isn’t possible, make your peace with the fact that what has happened, has already happened. Leave the past in the past. Learn from it.
One might consider that doing things like ordering in some food, watching their favorite rom-com, going out with friends, etc is a way to attain happiness. That holds true for most of us but it’s only temporary. When we find meaning in life even when things don’t go as planned, that is when we find true happiness because pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.
How to find true happiness?
If ‘having it all’ was the answer to a blissful life, life would’ve been so easy to figure out from the very beginning but the key to a happy life is finding joy from within. So, the next time you find yourself worrying too much, try replacing all that negativity with positive thoughts consciously. Realise that the power is in simplicity. Open your mind to new thoughts and ideas and the way to do that is to empty your cup. Dive into your own heart before you open your heart to others. Work on yourself. Only when we reach a place where we feel centered and alive is when we are able to find inspiration within.
So, to conclude, if you believe happiness is the opposite of sadness, then no, you can’t be happy everyday. But if you believe that happiness is something devoid of suffering, then yes, you can choose to be happy because in the end, it’s not in the pursuit of happiness that we find fulfillment, it’s in the happiness of pursuit.
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