Disagreement can simply be defined as the difference of opinions. We live in a democratic country where every individual has the right to express how they feel. Along with the freedom of expression comes the freedom to disagree. This disagreement can simply be an expression of opinion or can even turn into serious arguments depending upon the individual. We all are alike and different in particular ways. While some of our opinions match, some may not, that’s natural. Man is a social being, who cannot survive without another man’s support. Just like communication and discussion, ethical arguments and disagreements are also necessary. However, the problem arises where this disagreement, argument, or negativity starts harming a person in any way. By harming, we mean having a serious effect on the individual’s mental or emotional health.
Importance of Disagreements
There is no such thing as a conflict-free society. Disagreements are inevitable, normal, and a healthy part of our everyday living. However, most of us only see disagreements as a negative thing and fail to recognize its importance in society. Disagreements, arguments as well as negative comments aren’t completely harmful. It depends upon how we perceive them and also how they’re presented. Ethical disagreements and arguments are necessary for the proper functioning of a society. We all know that it is easier for us to agree than to disagree. Most of the time we prefer complying over convincing, unaware of the wrong we’re doing. Disagreements and arguments, when managed well, can lead to many positive outcomes.
Certain benefits of disagreements are:
- Broadens our perspective
- Enhances our communication and listening skills
- Leads to the best possible solution
- Helps in learning emotional control
The Right Way to Express Disagreement
Now the question that arises is, if we consider disagreement as a helpful thing then why are we finding a way to deal with it effectively? It is because people don’t know how to disagree. Most of us are bad at convincing others or putting our views forward, and end up landing in an argument during the process or personally attacking the other person. Not knowing the healthy way of expressing oneself can be harmful to both, the expresser as well as the receiver.
Keeping an opinion in mind doesn’t let one live peacefully. Catharsis is an essential process that we all practice once in a while for our well-being. Even emotionally, we need to express our feelings from time to time in order to feel better, and find appropriate solutions to the same. Also, one who is bad at it, goes through many problems in life, along with having bad mental health. Not being able to express oneself in a healthy manner, makes one feel miserable, helpless, and can even lead to serious problems such as stress and anxiety.
However, to avoid such circumstances, we can do our part by keeping some simple things in mind. Here are a few of them:
- Before you speak, make sure whatever you’re about to speak doesn’t tend to hurt anyone in any way
- Be polite and respectful
- Choose your words wisely
- Make it a form of discussion instead of an argument
- If the situation worsens, consider leaving it aside for some time
The Right Way to Deal with Disagreement
Not receiving disagreements politely, also tends to hurt other’s feelings. Extremely negative opinions when expressed in a straight-forward manner can even harm another person’s mental wellbeing. While sometimes the problem lies with the expresser, other times it is because of the way the receiver perceives the disagreements. To avoid misunderstandings, we should make sure that we’re not doing it because of our frame of mind. It will also save our mental-health from getting harmed in any way.
This can be done by keeping some simple things in mind. Here are a few:
- People are not always being hateful, some are just giving feedback or simply expressing their opinions.
- Some people will always disagree with you and that’s not okay or normal. Avoid having unnecessary discussions with them.
- Be ready to learn.
- Most of the time, the disagreement is about what we said and not about who we are. We must know the difference.
- No matter how the other person behaves, you should always reciprocate with kindness and patience. It shocks the other person and even makes them realize their mistake at times.
- Despite considering all these points, if something still bothers you, ignoring at first point is always the best solution.
In conclusion, these are all general ways which are considered helpful. You are free to find out what works best for your mental health. Above all, prioritize your mental health, after all, empathy should begin with ourselves.
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