The feeling of nervousness is defined as a very uncanny and uncomfortable feeling which causes anxiety. Nervousness is a cause for anxiety to a lot of people. We feel nervous in very often for example before a presentation, examination, result, performance etc any of these can trigger the feeling of nervousness. This nervousness has both negative and positive aspects to itself. Being nervous is natural and completely normal but if a person is unable to cope with this feeling then it might lead to major anxiety issues. Therefore, it’s necessary to overcome this uncomfortable feeling to ensure perfect performance in any task.
POSITIVE EFFECTS OF NERVOUSNESS
Sometimes this uncomfortable feeling can be just the push you need to achieve the best of you. A healthy amount of nervousness keeps us motivated and excited about the upcoming event. Also, overcoming this nervousness involves self-growth, the entire process helps you explore about your limitations and capabilities as an individual. It’s also an indication of certain adjustments that you need to be the best version of yourself. Hence, nervousness has the above-mentioned positives to itself.
NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF NERVOUSNESS
Prolonged or unresolved nervousness might lead to palpitations, increased heart rate, fatigue, headaches, etc. It also decreases self-confidence of an individual and may lead to failure or a perception that “I can’t do it” or “it’s out of my league”. Its fosters a ‘quitting’ mentality amongst individuals. People who are nervous becomes very irritable which leads to emotional outbursts. Therefore, nervousness has negative effects on physical as well as psychological health of an individual.
HOW TO OVERCOME NERVOUSNESS IN A HEALTHY WAY?
- PREPARE YOURSELF BEFOREHAND
It’s always better to prepare yourself for upcoming events, a little preparedness can get you a long way and helps you to control nervousness. Last minute preparations may lead to nervousness and unpreparedness is an inevitable cause of anxiety and nervousness.
Anything that we do have both positive and negative consequences. People often anticipate negative outcomes a lot more than positive outcomes and overthink about those negative outcomes which causes nervousness. Therefore, be a little optimistic and tell yourself that you can do it instead of questioning yourself ‘can I do it?’
- Choose courage over confidence
People often tell you to be confident when in reality being confident is difficult but being courageous on the other hand isn’t that difficult. It helps you to accept your limitations and to go ahead and work on it. Tell yourself “I am scared, I might fail but I am still going for it.” It helps you explore more about your abilities and can help you overcome your nervousness.
- Step back and relax
Nervousness leads to a lot of physical changes in the body like palpitations. Rapid breathing rate etc. if you feel any similar symptoms then step back and breathe. Stop thinking about your surroundings for a while and focus on your breathing. This will help you to get back to your normal state.
- Have a happy place
‘Happy place’ is your comforting fantasy land where everything is under your control. Whenever you feel like your nervousness is getting out of hand close your eyes and go to your happy place it will reboot your system and give you a kick start that you need to go ahead and conquer.
- Assume Rapport
It basically means whenever you enter into any new or uncomfortable social situation which is causing you anxiety, perceive the other person as your best friend and that you already have a cordial relationship with him. This will help you express yourself in a better way by kicking your anxiety to the curb.
- Perceive nervousness in a positive way
Now it sounds a little generic but it’s very important. Try to perceive your nervousness in a positive way and tune out negative emotions. Tell yourself that it’s just your excitement. It helps you to keep your calm under stressful situations.
Nervousness is both good and bad, just like access of anything isn’t healthy similarly access of nervousness isn’t healthy either. It’s important to overcome these negative feelings as it has a major effect on a person’s well-being. You shouldn’t be ashamed of your nervousness as its an indicator about how much you really care about that particular thing. Its okay to be nervous and dance with anxiety sometimes, relish it it’s a sign that you are onto something. You can’t control what’s happening outside but you can control how you react to it, so keep your calm and think wisely. Take your nervousness and turn it into a tool to push yourself to do better. Have faith in yourself and go for it and remember that:
The world’s not watching that closely. It’s too busy contemplating itself in the mirror.
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Making Wishes
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