As the word suggests, realistic means to be real or to believe in what is real. A realistic person is someone who is convinced by the reality of the situation. A person who can understand the difference between what is achievable and what’s not. It is someone who is completely unbiased and has his/her own values; a person who interprets things without any kind of filter. A realist never judges a situation too quickly and has a grip on the reality of it. Realists hold real expectations and therefore have realistic goals.
Key to Success – Realistic Goals
The top reason why some of us fail to accomplish our “new year resolutions” is that we tend to mistake our goals with our dreams. New year resolutions are merely an example. Just like these little targets, we have many life altering aspirations in life. These aspirations are our dreams or goals, which is a fact that most people tend to miss. While our dreams can be as absurd and unrealistic as possible, our goals must be real and practical. Dreams are only expectations whereas goals are the steps to achieve those dreams. Goals and expectations have a huge impact on our overall life, satisfaction, and happiness. If we expect a huge leap without making some sort of effort, we’re bound to fail and blame our approach. A number of times, we step forward to attain something without a plan. We make a long term commitment without calculating the attainability of a goal, which leads to more pressure and failures. For example, if we pressurize ourselves to lose weight quickly, we might sacrifice our health. Setting more realistic goals and expectations can keep you from getting discouraged and will help you to become successful.
Ways to Set Realistic Goals
- Pen down your goals
Writing is a great exercise to know yourself more. As we write, we understand more and more. It helps us examine our thoughts more clearly. Writing our goals gives us an overview of how to take the first step forward and what is our approach towards doing a particular task. When we write things down, it helps us focus on those points in a better, more realistic and concrete way. If we just think about our goals without writing them down, we tend to not prioritize them as much as we should, and it becomes easier to forget them over time. The very act of writing them down helps us commit to the goals and provides us a greater perspective on the importance of a particular goal, helping us decide whether it’s realistic or not.
- Setting milestones
Long term goals cannot be achieved in one day. In order to achieve them, we need to work step by step. After figuring out the main goal, we can assign small tasks systematically to reach our ultimate aim. This exercise is helpful because the goals that take time are the only ones we find easy to procrastinate upon and put-off. Hence, it is important to have long term goals with well-planned milestones. This includes time and task management in the planning process.
- Scheduling time for goals
Goals are something that we want to do in our life. There might not be a slot in our daily routines to input an extra task, but we can manage our time. Taking out time to accomplish small tasks or milestones must be planned in advance. If we don’t do this, we might never accomplish our goal. The more time we devote to a particular goal properly, the faster we tend to succeed. So we must manage our time by keeping in mind the pace of success that we want to achieve. Allotting too much or too little time might also cause a problem. Be aware, practical and judicious while working on time management. Making to-do lists or timetables can help.
- Revising goals from time to time
After the process of committing to our goals and setting milestones, some of us still do not achieve what we wanted to in the first place. There can be many reasons for this. Such situations can make us feel as if we are lacking something and end up feeling pressurized. So it is very important to revise our goals and figure out the number of actions that are needed according to the progress we are making. This is also good for vague goals as sometimes we cannot figure out what’s right or wrong without trying it. So, revision of goals can help us decide whether to continue or leave, whether we still want it or not.
- Knowing our values
The concept of continously trying to accomplish goals can sometimes rob us of our happiness and comfort. While it is important to step out of our comfort zone, it should not be done at the cost of our mental health. What is important to us? What makes us happy? What is our interest? Such small points are important to keep in mind while deciding our aims. Our focus should be on the things that matter to us and not on what the world wants us to do. Having realistic expectations with our happiness in it is the most important aspect of all.
- Be Mindful
If we constantly think about the future, we might miss out on opportunities for success and happiness which are right in front of us. It is important to appreciate ourselves for every effort we make, whether we succeed or not; we should stay positive about what we do today. If not success, our efforts do provide us with experience and help us learn about about our capabilities and strengths. Hence, attending to the present task fully and learning everything by and by is important.
Find a BUDDY to share all your problems with (even anonymously, if you want) on the FeelJoy Mobile App available for all Android users.