It’s that time of the year again. When you have had your Christmas holidays, Valentine’s week is just around the corner and Netflix is releasing all these rom-coms which, although full of clichés, make our hearts feel all warm and fuzzy.
It seems like everywhere you look, from television and movies to advertising, a universal message is constantly being sent in your direction that you need a boyfriend or girlfriend to be complete. It’s hard to make yourself believe otherwise when there are a lot of Instagram accounts dedicated to posting about couples and how great it is when you’re in a relationship. Just ten minutes of listening to popular music and it’s obvious that we are a society obsessed with romantic relationships. But we are here to tell you that even if it may not seem like it, but it’s okay to be single.
Why is it good to be single at this point?
Even though the whole valentine’s day construct has got you believing that only the people who are in a relationship are truly happy, we are here to tell you why it’s good to be single.
While it’s true that relationships help you grow when you’re with the right person, it’s also necessary to spend some time apart to know what you really want in life and in a relationship. Being single allows you time for introspection and self-reflection. Being aware of your interests, likes, and dislikes, keep you out of relationships that don’t align with who you are as a person. This saves you time and the headache of being misaligned with the wrong person.
When it’s just about you, you can do whatever you want to do or whatever works for you without having to worry about how it’ll effect the life of a significant other. hence, you’ve got more freedom to pursue whatever your heart says without having to think much. You have the liberty to be slightly more carefree with your decisions.
This changes significantly when you are in a relationship because then, you have to approach things very differently. You have to learn how to compromise and think of others first. But, guess what? If you are single, you don’t have to do any of this. You can do whatever makes your heart content. The world is your oyster! Take full advantage. Use your flexibility to do things you want to do, knock things off your bucket list, or do whatever makes you happy. Carpe Diem!
Romantic relationships are only a part of your life. They aren’t your whole life.
No matter what, when we give more energy and thought into something than what is actually required, we always end up overthinking and affecting our mental health. Even though having a healthy relationship can be significant and helps you prosper into a person you can admire, it’s not a healthy behavior to dwell on it all the time. Many people get into relationships just for the sake of it.
When you are in a relationship for the wrong reasons, a lot of unnecessary drama and heartache occurs. Bad relationships are time-consuming, emotionally draining and just plain too much work. We only live once and before we decide to fully devote ourselves to a relationship or another person, we must do the same for ourselves first. Know yourself first. Work on yourself. Try to properly understand what you want, what suits you the best, what your goals are. After that, take the romantic plunge.
Don’t rush into having a relationship or beat yourself up because you don’t have one at the moment simply because ads and posts on the internet make it seem all beautiful and rosy and in return make you feel deprived. You will know when you’re ready. You’ll meet the perfect person eventually. But, for now, why not dedicate your free time to becoming a person you can love?
Whether you believe in an afterlife or not, you only get one chance on this planet. There is a discrete amount of time you are allotted to make the most out of things and leave your legacy. If you’re spending your time crying with ice cream over the fact that you’re single or wallowing in self-pity, you’re just wasting the precious time you’ve been given. Develop your career, learn something that you’ve always been interested in, take a class, or be the best friends you possibly can be. Take this time to make yourself the person you want and will be proud to be.
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